Depending on your unique resting face, your silence may be interpreted as anger, sadness or boredom. If you're unlucky and it happens to be sadness this may only encourage more questions and more glaring eyes. The worst combination with this is when you're not in the mood to lie and smile and say you're fine (followed by a laugh for emphasis), leaving you staring at the person who has just repeated their question to you.
Person A: "Wait are you okay? You look really spaced out! You haven't said a word today."
Your mind: "I should probably answer or smile. Maybe just laugh a little and hope they loose their train of thought"
You: ".........."
Person A: "Why is she being so quiet?"
Your mind: "Why didn't I say anything. Now I just look rude. Great. Great work me. It's probably too late now."
You leave just knowing they will be at least thinking if not discussing why you always come across so cold. The more and more this happens the less you care and become fine with not being invited to the next catch up because you know "you just didn't seem to have fun".
Tomorrow you'll wake up spewing sunshine and constantly stopping yourself from interrupting every conversation you're in. You have so much to say and so little time!!If you take a step back you might see a pattern. These polar opposite moods you find yourself in might correlate to the people you're with. Hmm.... It doesn't mean that Person A and associates are all terrible, draining people but maybe they just don't bring out the best in you or you're no longer on the same page as them like you were a year ago. People drift, interests change or don't and sometimes you may never be able to let go of that grudge and loss of trust.
If you wish to continue spending time with them: make the most of it and have some fun. Don't be left with regrets. This doesn't mean you have to forgive them for everything and pretend or force yourself to be buddy buddy with them. Enjoy the day and food. If you really don't want to talk tell them and say "So what's the deal with Trump"- a sure fire way to start a heated discussion and take the spotlight off yourself for a little while. If all else fails just keep eating because no one wants to see you talk with your mouth full!
Keep living your lives of spice! Silence is golden and so are you! :) xx
